Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus...
(Thank you John Grey for the catchy little phrase we are now all so familiar with) and, some of us at times, are way off to la-la-land. Which planet may that be?
And how does it go… chivalry is dead… something, something? Or, is it too “old” fashioned of a concept to remember???
Earlier today: shock, temporary - unexpected - humiliation and embarrassment.
Felt like a hundred gallons of waters hurled my way, hitting me, obliterating me...
There are deliveries meant to fatally wound (this felt like one) ... or, are they just thoughtless fear-based knee-jerk reactions...? The results are much the same.
I asked. Got an acknowledgement - but not a response.
I waited. Observed. Then, I asked again…
Silence, no matter how one slices it, has potential catastrophic results. Particularly, the silence of others, which may allow one even unintentionally, to see - imagine things - that are not there... or are they?
For instance, when and if I ask a question, I prefer an answer. A direct and polite - respectful, compassionate - if need be - answer. No matter what the response is, I can/I will – and must - deal with it!
It is "this silence", that ends up somehow unintentionally accomodating (?) to “suit” ones needs/space/frame of mind perhaps... hmmm, but I am not quiet sure, if so at all times.
However, one must never break the number one rule!
Never, ever, ever imagine – assume anything!
But, then again, I have been around long enough to know a thing or two, to intuit - correctly. Yeahhhhh........ some things I can “smell”. Sometimes the scents given are “confusing”… yeahhhh…. Accidentally? Deliberately? Subconsciously?
Silence has lots of meanings/scents – I am an expert of sorts in this matter – they are seldom innocent - and highly dangerous when odorless, colorless and insipid… as when involved in denial-S.
It may mean punishment from some; for other’s it is a refuge or a dark and comfy hole to hide in, a way to avoid expressing true feelings, a way to manipulate, play mind games by holding another's interest… some sort of deception maybe.... ? You name it - it is as varied as each individual wants to make it. But, it is seldom good news.
We live in such times, at which perhaps, some of us disengage completely emotionally from our activities.
Times, when some of us may feel the “freedom” cyberspace grants, as a signal to shut down, and fall into a delusional world where there are neither human beings nor feelings involved.
Any interaction, no matter how fleeting or which shape or form it takes constitutes a "relationship". Even when and if, for a moment it is disregarded as a meaningless interaction, it is still a “relationship/an exchange” with another being – even at a remote end of the ... planet, galaxy…(?)
Have we become this selfish?
This arrogant and pompous ass-ed?
Assuming no one else outside our agenda matters/counts???
The answer to the above riddle (?) is: If one does not understand something, one must keep asking until one gets a clear (and hopefully kind, compassionate and/or respectful) answer. Then, only then, one may proceed with the correct action and take the appropriate direction. (Did I lean this from The Little Prince - Antoine de Saint- Exupéry?)
After all is said and done what, what else matters in life but, kind, caring, compassionate relationships.... exchanges ... glimpses of one another's souls?
revised and updated
Sunday, July 23, 2006
"There IS a reason for everything"
Monday, July 24
I AM Soooo over this right now... it was a true blessing in disguise!